Does Ashley Madison Really Work?

Does Ashley Madison Really Work?
2.4 (47.05%) 292 votes

Does Ashley Madison work?Ashley Madison says that you should have an affair because life is short. It’s a dating website of sorts, but is particularly geared towards married people, or those in a committed relationship. They say it’s the most popular service for discreet meetups, so we took it for a spin to see what it’s really like from the inside.

There’s definitely a market for people that are unhappy or unsatisfied in their relationship, either married couples or those that aren’t married but are still in monogamous relationships. It’s human nature to not want to rock the boat, to keep the status quo, and also to stay in a situation that is good on all fronts but the sexual one. It’s not always cut and dry as far as just breaking up or getting a divorce if you want to fool around or see someone new. And that’s the niche that they’re trying to satisfy here.

The Claim
Ashley Madison claims that users of their site are 100% like-minded, and that your anonymity will be protected by their site security and by them keeping your registration details private.

The Hype
They’re running a television and online advertising campaign to build interest. Once you’re signed up and fill out your profile they’ll also send you updates when new members join that fit what you’re looking for, or when you get messages from other users. Of course a site like this is going to get is share of attention because it’s putting the elephant that’s usually in the corner right in the center of attention. By bringing affairs and cheating into the mainstream, and forming a business around it, there’s going to be a lot of people that both like it and hate it.

The Cost
It’s free to sign up, but that doesn’t get too far. You can receive messages, but if you want to send them you’re going to have to pull out the credit card to buy some credits. Each action you take will deplete your credits, and each one has its own cost depending on how far along it will move you down the relationship. Some users get upset when they spend their credits and don’t get a response in return, but you have to play the numbers game and not fixate on any one person no matter how “perfect” their profile might make them seem.

The cost of credits varies by how many you purchase at once. The basic package is 100 credits for $49.

The Way It Works
You can use the service as much or as little as you like, but with the credit system in place you are never obligated to stay on any longer than you want to. This action-based model makes it so that you don’t feel stuck in a monthly membership, but also adds more meaning and importance to the contacts being made, which reduces the number of people that are trying to scam others or misrepresent themselves. In our estimation this is a better way to set things up than using a monthly payment and then allowing an unlimited number of contacts to be made.

If your intentions are clear then it’s always good to flock with birds of a feather. If you just want a side fling then you don’t want to be using a dating site like eHarmony where people are looking for a long-term relationship. At the same time you are not sure what the intentions of others are, so there’s no guarantee that you’re going to get what you want from this, but it does increase your likelihood of finding someone that wants a noncommittal, no strings attached kind of set up.

Some have expressed that they didn’t really like their Ashley Madison experience, but the same can be said for all of the dating sites out there. It’s a microcosm of life and the real world dating scene, it is what you make it, and you have to keep your expectations reasonable. If you think that it’s going to be akin to something like Adult Friend Finder you’re probably going to be disappointed. In fact many users have said that they were able to find long-term discrete relationships on the side without jeopardizing their primary relationship.

Final Ashley Madison Review

After trying out Ashley Madison for a few months, we’re giving it the Thumbs Up based on our experience, and also from additional reviews and feedback from users that have said it worked. When dealing with human relationships nothing is for sure, so a website can only provide the playground and in this instance they’ve done their best to attract the right mix of people. Of course there will still be the bad apples with nefarious intentions, but you’ll have to use your best judgement and pre-qualify as much as you can before inviting them into your life, no matter how short term.

Our Recommendation
There’s no harm in trying it out, and since you remain in control of what people see, and what messages you respond to, it’s a way to dip your toe in the water to see how it feels. The majority of sites out there are for people that aren’t in a relationship and want to be in one. The rest are for people that just want to have a one night stand or the equivalent. This site feels like it’s somewhere in the middle, with people willing to have repeat encounters if they are having a good time.

What do you think? Does Ashley Madison work or not?

Does Ashley Madison Really Work?
2.4 (47.05%) 292 votes

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John July 21, 2013 at 2:30 am

AM worked for me in a month. But in that same month I also had a stalker arrange a meeting. Guess it was my fault that I let my penis out think my intellect. Good news is you can block the weirdos. I did!


JohnW October 6, 2014 at 11:34 am

AM is completely a fake website run by a computer program. IT IS A SCAM!!! I’m glad I paid with my AMEX card because I got my money back…

I got a ton of emails, winks, suggestions to send gifts, and even chatted with “someone” many times via Yahoo Messenger — each chat with “whomever” was based clearly on what words I had entered…

Don’t waste your time or money and other review that says it works is a fake review. If you wonder why no one else (specifically a guy) has not shared this info, it’s because we are embarrassed to say we got scammed.


Bull May 13, 2015 at 7:24 pm

Sorry but AM worked for me. Found no bots there and had a rather happy time meeting two different ladies. Don’t know where you are getting your information from but maybe it wasn’t the real site?


female January 4, 2017 at 3:22 am

I am a female and like Bull it worked fine for me. I met a wonderful guy and we have a great on the side thing going, If we ever break it off I will be using AM again.


Leon October 1, 2018 at 9:48 pm

Thanks for honest review


Luka October 2, 2018 at 4:15 pm

Hi John

you are perfectly right … I was scammed too only I was not able to get my money back.

I leave this message only for helping other, do not believe the good review


Happy with AM March 30, 2015 at 2:57 am

I have had an ongoing relationship for 9 months with a man in the same predicament as myself – no sex – no passion – we both have been married to our spouses for over 20 years. The best part is we are having the best sex but make no mistake ladies – if you are going on this site the men are not looking to replace their wives – they want sex and passion – that’s it. you need to understand that = leave your heart out of it or it will be broken. I feel I could very easily fall for this man but he is not willing to leave her and break up his family and I am not sure I am either.


mike November 14, 2015 at 5:51 pm

I was reading reviews for Ashley Madison and came across yours. First, thanks for your input on the site…. At least now I know there are some well spoken women (and not just creepy guys) on AM who want Sex on the dl like myself. Sometimes you want to live a little and enjoy the company of someone other than your wife or, in your case, husband. Secondly, where are you from? lol hey it’s worth a shot….you might live nearby. I’m in Louisiana….


A curious and adventurous gentlemen πŸ˜‰


Dave November 25, 2015 at 7:42 am

I believe that AM is not as bad as most people try to tell you. Did it work for me? No, I personally found my affair on…but that does not mean that I felt “umcomfortable” on AM.


Marc November 25, 2015 at 11:19 pm

Hi the Ashley madsion site is a waste of time and money Beware of scammers claiming in their profile wanting a no strings affair and then want you to sign up a site which takes you to a pornographic site and they take your credit card so beware and I have paid 150.00 and had 1 match
client claimed was married and wanted money for sexual encounter also beware of members profile say from new York sends photos next they tell you from Ghana Africa and wanting funds requests I am actually removing my profile after one month very disaatisfied with Ashley Madison


Mike January 7, 2018 at 11:43 pm

Marc, I am currently experiencing the exact same thing. One thing that made me wake up was having email conversations with 3 ladies at different times. They all sounded so real and sincere, one especially, then you never hear from them again!! It’s like they get paid a few dollars or something for every chump they hook?? Very disappointed in this site!!


kayak September 12, 2018 at 9:15 am

You’ve got to be smart about it. There are obviously some scammers and escorts in the mix, but I hooked up with three women in a thirty day period. The only downside for me is I started to get too attached to two of the women. Thought I could handle it but I realized can’t keep totally about sex. But the site it def works for a lot of people.


JustinT December 8, 2015 at 1:13 pm

Ashley Madison is the world’s best known extra-marital affairs website. Most of its users are from Canada, USA and UK.
Sadly though it has recently been revealed that the site was hacked and millions of its members’ details released publicly. Those members are rightly now concerned about their privacy.
To be honest, I always had an inclination that this may happen one day. I never really felt entirely safe using such a huge, popular site.
I also didn’t feel that they were being entirely fair when I discovered that YOU HAVE TO PAY if you want them to delete all the data that they hold on you. Seriously? Pay upon joining and then pay when you leave?

I personally prefer using smaller sites to find someone to have a discrete affair with. I just have a feeling that this kind of site is not such a significant target for hackers, willing to disclose someone’s personal details. I tried quite a few of them and the one I really like was There are plenty of members in my area and I had sex with a gorgeous woman I met on the site already! We have had our first date in a restaurant to get to know each other a little bit, but when we met up the second time we booked a room in a hotel and had the most amazing night πŸ˜‰

The great thing about is the ‘no strings’ aspect. We continued to have an affair and both of us were cool about it staying that way. We would just meet up and have sex together and no obligation to turn it into a serious relationship. Would recommend it.


Luis January 18, 2016 at 5:18 pm

Yes, I agree with many “reviewers”…sites like Saphrina really managed to provide a better environment for so called cheaters. But AM is not as bad at all, provided you invest a lot of time and money. Credits are expensive.

After all, I think AM is still one of the better sites!


Marc@ August 19, 2016 at 11:49 pm

One gent said it correctly. This site is a total scam. Bots send countless messages to you claiming to be an admiring 25 year old. Some send photos that are obviously stock porn shots. Someone should shut these guys down. Please don’t waste your money.


gofarplace August 4, 2017 at 11:49 am

i agree. during the trial period, ladies contacted me to send messages. I watched for 2 weeks and kept an eye of couple of ladies and they were online every day. i thought they are real. From the day, i bought points, they became so irregular.
It is total scam. Not worth it.


jim k. December 12, 2016 at 8:41 pm

Wish I had read this blog before I lost 70.00 bucks and hours of my time responding to bogus profiles and dishonest people who act as potential lovers but divert you to other love wanted dating sites. AM billed my card for 140 bucks extra that I had to dispute. AM is a buyer beware like all the rest.


James March 19, 2017 at 3:31 pm

I have used AM in the with some success but I deleted my old profile years ago. WIth that said… I recently decided to rejoin the AM community. When I filled out my new profile I accidentally clicked a wrong button and registered as a female looking for a male. Wups.. So I immediately went a made a new profile correcting the mistake being a man looking for a lady. I then went and deleted the incorrect profile.

I was completely astonished at what happened next… I got an email from my own deleted “woman for man” profile to my “man for woman” profile that i NEVER sent and had to pay credits to view. This tell me that 100% without a doubt that AM is baiting guys into paying for more credits.

While the site does in fact work with quite a bit of effort and money, there is no doubt that this site is baiting guys into paying credits to get absolutely nothing in return. Like I said, I got an email from my own deleted profile that wanted me to pay to view, let alone respond.

Based on this very bad business practice, I will only give them one star and am going to delete my profile.


Paul Jones May 4, 2017 at 1:58 pm

Spent plenty of hard earned $$$$ on this site to no avail. Some show an interest, vaguely chat, and then disappear into thin air. An enormous waste of time and money. If your frustrated with your married life, this site just doubles your frustration. I’d rather deal with my shortcomings at home, rather than deal with deadbeat women who think their shit don’t stink, and don’t have the decency to respond to a perfectly polite conversation. I’ve also confirmed that there are phony profiles. NICE!! Avoid at all costs!!!!!!!


AM/PM May 14, 2017 at 3:22 pm

I have usewd last year AM and i had two awsome partner. However, my credits was taken away this year by sending fake profiles and email which dissapeared always or no respond after I sent message. Only interest is to doing it has to be from AM staff I belive. Since there is no good place to complain I will write my experience in all review availble to make you aware of the cons and pros.


sexyman386 July 23, 2017 at 11:00 pm

Look this website is legit and I am sure it is working for many people. Unfortunately it is not working for me and here is why. Ashley Madison does not screen the girls and I have been approached by many women who claim I need to fill out an assurance ID which Ashley Madison has confirmed it’s a scam. Also this credit system they use for a first time user will be used up in about a few days before they run out of credits. It makes sense to buy their best package but who wants to spend over $200 when they are unsure. There are quite a few reviews which praises Ashley Madison but if you read clearly they try it out for themselves and they spend a lot of time and effort and they especially hire some guy who knows how to talk to the girls to get them to meet up. For us average joes you will need to spend a heck of a lot of money and a lot of time is needed before finding the right girl.


monty August 9, 2017 at 6:42 am

Bad experience, being new it took awhile to figure out the scam. I buy some credits, get contacted by 3 different woman, beautiful pics, right away with message to contact them at their private email. Discussions are very open and suggestive. They have jobs or businesses that have them traveling to all points on the globe. Then after awhile they run into a financial issue an start asking you to help them with a credit card. Glad I sent them a fake picture


Srqpfs August 11, 2018 at 1:35 am

Ditto I corresponded with a woman supposed to be 48 looked 32 said she was in modern art auction 2 weeks later she was stuck in Turkey and couldn’t get home. Talk about a scam If you use this site caveat et emptor.


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Es February 9, 2018 at 5:35 am

I have to say this website is filled with fake profiles that makes you send a message and a few days later no longer there, this is their way to make sure you spend the money to get credit but never actually meet anyone.

I caution people from this website it does not work and it is purely a scam


Rich March 31, 2018 at 3:54 pm

Complete Scam.

Then you get ‘messaged’ with BS like ‘this one may be interested – reach out to her’… which isn’t as bad as the complete BS profiles (the photos are usually a give-away), bots, and BS notes.


LatinaChics April 10, 2018 at 6:24 pm

I love this website. I found a guy really quickly that was married too and looking for some passion. However, the only downside is that I think men get addicted to this site. So woman beware, if you are going to be with a man from this site remember that they are cheaters…so don’t expect to be the only side chick. Use protection and be safe. But it was great sex ;). Also, these men are mostly married and not looking for another wife so don’t put any emotions or feelings into the relationship. To the guys who are on this site, if a chic doesn’t says “Not interested” please let it go…shes not into you…I’m sure there’s another one on the site for you. It’s not easy to find chemistry/ attraction with an online site but I can tell you from experience….it does happen…you just gotta find your diamond in the rough. 😘


Jeremy May 10, 2018 at 12:26 am

AM is defiantly a scam website, everything on AM is computer generated. my advise is stay away from AM. 0/10


BustyBabyDDD May 12, 2018 at 10:43 am

I joined AM 2 weeks ago. (Until yesterday I wasn’t aware the men paid, and as a woman I didn’t have to) My profile was completely honest, down to the fact that I am overweight. (I figured why lie, especially if the point is to meet someone to have an affair with…)
I got hits from several men of various ages, including some 30 years younger than I am. (I am 50) I whittled them all down and weeded out the nonsense to 5 really nice men that I have seen a few times each. (Slept with 4) They each know about each other and I have told them all that I will be making a choice, and each of them has been completely understanding about that, because I can’t go on with multiple partners.
So for me, Ashley Madison has been a HUGE success. I have encountered no problems, scammers, etc.


Ann August 7, 2018 at 5:40 pm

I set up a profile on AM and found a wonderful man in one day! I too am overweight, busty and 50! It is so incredible to feel passion again! You go girl and I will too!


JohnnieRinger November 7, 2018 at 5:40 pm

AM is a complete waste of time and nothing more than a scammers paradise. I had one lady tell me she needed to borrow $1.7M to get access to her $18M inheritance in the UK to pay taxes. Yeah right. Another lady claimed she was a diamond importer, the a few days later got a desperate plea for $8500 as she was stuck in customs jail and needed to straighten it out. Yeah, they want to borrow money from a guy they never met before. Right. The best source to borrow money from when her life was on the line was someone they never met before.

Worse, when you block the TS or other, they still come up in the searches. This is a scam website, nothing more. Save your time, money, and frustration.


Tom Hunter May 12, 2018 at 1:06 pm

Purchased the entry level program and sent out emails to local gals. Here are the results so you can reach your own conclusion:
6 prostitutes
1 scam artist from Ghana
3 no responses after I was contacted by them with a message that I had to pay to open. Needless to say I did not meet a single real person and wasted more than 70 bucks for nothing but a total waste.


AnonymousRight? July 24, 2018 at 2:02 am

I found AM has targeted right weakness of men, polygamy nature. We probably get bored with our partner and fantasize to sleep with someone else’s wife. There are several things you need to keep in mind before you even consider signing up.
– Only men pay for using the site. Isnt it unfair in the world where everything is equal? That also probably tells a lot on how AM operates. May be majority of women dont wish to have a secret relationship at all. To attract whoever is left out, they have possibly made it for free.
– Now that we accept men are supposed to get ripped off, how are they screening the women? To test that I made a fake profile and was utterly shocked to see the number of men who sent proposal to meet me. I should say some men are really desperate for sex, and no wonder why the flesh market thrives so well. A few had sent me naked pictures of themselves. If you are one of them, go and take it down. You dont know when AM will get hacked and how your picture could make your family heartbroken.
– Women ratio is very very less. I infact really liked three women profiles and sent them my message. It costed me like 5c+5c for each message. By default AM enables something called priority message, which is nothing but a flag that gets shown on the other side(my fake women profile showed me how it all looks from the other side) If you use credit card, they also upfront load you with 19.99 for things you dont want. A cleverly thought way to rip men off. Coming back to the messages I sent, these women probably got tens of messages from people like me. It also means I have to reach out to many to get proper response from atleast one. You do get response for say wink message(free message), however all responses are standard one a women can choose. When she does, you get collect message which you cannot read without being paid AM member. Again con job.
– Many women I saw were either escorts, came on the site for checking how it would be or completely fake ones like the other one I created. Now when you send those priority messages hoping to get laid, how do you know its not one of the profiles a man has created just to have fun? Think about it folks.

I need not have written detailed review here. However the fake profile I created thought me a lot how it looks from the other side. I was hoping to get response from a women and expecting atleast I could chat with her. After I saw the other side, I came and removed my man’s profile. Its a fake service designed to loot men. Feel free to waste your money there or instead take your spouse to a nice dinner. May be we have to work on rekindeling our relationship with a partner we trust instead of reinventing the wheel all over again and get conned and hurt in the process.


Jon September 27, 2018 at 8:58 pm

Don’t believe any positive reviews of The site is a complete fraud. I paid for one month of service and the changed the settings so that there wasn’t an automatic renewal. The website set my membership was good for the month I paid for, but didn’t give me member access. Additionally, I’d estimate that at least 70 percent of the profiles on there are fake or catfish. The site does nothing to verify the profiles are real people.


Tom October 28, 2018 at 7:11 am

I joined today and got some 25 year old to skype me. Then recorded me and tried to blackmail me. Not happy right now 😟


Lee October 31, 2018 at 11:22 pm

Nope doesn’t work and I’ll tell you why… 99% of the profiles you are attracted to are fake and only want your email. So you won’t get replies back, as they were long abandoned (the phishers moved on to other fake profiles). Or you’ll get messages from decent looking profiles, most usually marked as out of state, but ALL claiming they are in your area if they are. Be wary of people who flirt with you. I don’t have my photo posted on my profile, for discretionary reasoning, so I know when I get a flirt, a woman in her right mind would not do so blindly. I could be hideous…or old.


Bob R. November 9, 2018 at 11:51 pm

AM worked with some effort. I met a really cool gal that rocked my world after a lot of dead ends to start. I’m sure the site fabricates a lot but I met a real cute cougar that treated me well after a few weeks of effort.


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Does Ashley Madison Really Work?
2.4 (47.05%) 292 votes