Does Ashley Madison Really Work?

Does Ashley Madison Work?Ashley Madison says that you should have an affair because life is short. It’s a dating website of sorts but is particularly geared towards married people or those in a committed relationship. They say it’s the most popular service for discreet meetups. The big question is it for you?

Overview
What you are going to learn here:

Ashley Madison Is An Open Minded Dating Community

How Popular It Is

The Moral Factor

Addressing Your Concerns

To Profile Or Not

The Cost Factor

The Perks

The Big Decision – Pros and Cons

Take Away

Open Minded Dating Community

Discreet Relationships

Ashley Madison is a site for those who are looking for something on the side.

It should be made very clear that the majority of those who are members of Ashley Madison are not looking for a relationship that would fall into the tradition of being long term and based on loyalty.

How Popular Is Ashley Madison?

Popularity

Here is what some of the statistics show based on some surveys

One would have to determine how popular it is to have an extra marital relationship to understand the popularity of what the Ashley Madison site is offering.

The percentage of married men who have cheated on their spouse at least once in their life is about 22%.

  • For the women who have been unfaithful, it is 14%.
  • Women who were aware of the infidelity is 30%.
  • For the men who knew their partner was cheating its 46%.

Who Are The Likely Choices?
Then there are surveys that zero in on who would be the likely choices for either the man or woman to choose for their extra curricular affair.

  • For co-workers its 36%
  • With a brother or sister in law its 17%

Keep in mind that when it comes to statistics such as these, they are going to be in general being as a lot of people are really not too keen on revealing their personal information even if it’s done anonymously.

The Morals Behind It?

Relationship Morals

What made the operators of Ashley Madison think there was a market for a site such as this.

It comes down to doing the math.

In 2018 there were 61.24 million married couples in the United States alone.

If we take the 22% of men, who admitted to cheating at least once that would give a male target market of 13.47 million.

Then add 14% for the ladies, which would be 8.57 it gives a total potential target market of approximately 22 million.

What is The Estimated Membership of Ashley Madison?

Memberships

The indicators are that the site’s database amounts to 30 million.

Global OutReach

Somewhat over the estimate but keep in mind that the United States is not the only country where this business operates. They have members from what they are saying is more than fifty countries.

A Comeback

When looking at it in this perspective, then the company has not fully tapped the number of potential users. However, keep in mind that the company has been making a comeback since its huge data breach in 2015.

New Approach

According to Paul Keable, who is the chief strategy officer for Ashely Madison since the data breach, they have been able to add 32 million new users. However, they are only marketing in three or four countries presently.

Not Alone

Dating Popularity

You now have an understanding of how popular Ashley Madison is. You now know that you are not alone in wanting to have an affair. At this point you most likely want to have some of your concerns addressed if you are thinking of having an affair.

Addressing Your Concerns

Most who are thinking of joining Ashley Madison have some concerns.

Security

Security

No doubt, the first thing on your mind is privacy. There is no way you want to experience what many did as a result of the data breach in 2015. So let’s look at discretion.

Concern #1: What Has Ashley Madison done to make sure that history doesn’t repeat itself by way of a data breach:

The Answer: According to an article on Forbes, Paul Keeble states:

“We can say to members—we heard your concerns and we addressed them. Some things they’ll see, like two-factor authentication, some they don’t. The biggest issue in cybersecurity is phishing activities and people’s own security. We describe security as a Sisyphean task. Every day we push the boulder up the hill. That’s not a negative, but every day is fresh eyes, start afresh.” Forbes.

  • In addition this the site itself says:
    You cannot link your account to any of your other social networks.
  • They recommend using a dedicated private email address for the account.
  • Payments can be made by credit card or Paypal. The card is charged as online services. If you are using the app, payments are handled by a third party. So you are protected in case of payment tracking.

The rest is up to you to ensure your use of the site is kept private such as not sharing the information that you are a member of the site. Or allowing others to see you when you are logged on.

Privacy

Profile Information

A lot of people don’t like giving out too much information about themselves.

Concern #2: How much information do you have to provide in order to register?

The Answer: Not much really compared to some of the traditional dating sites. What is required is your sex, weight, height, age, and marital status. You can also use a pen name rather than your real name. However, you do need to provide a valid email address.

When does The Action Begin?

Dating

Once you have decided to join, you want to know how long before you can start conversing.

Concern #3:You will want to know when you are going to be able to start getting in touch with others and vice versa.

The Answer: To kick start you the site will give you a list of compatibles (based on your zip or postal code) that they feel are best suited for you. This can be your starting point.
When someone is interested in reaching out to you, then you will get notifications.

The Cost

You know there is going to be some costs involved, and this may be of a concern if you are on a budget.

Concern #4: How much is this going to cost?

The Answer: Once you decide that you want to make contact now it’s going to cost you financially. BUT, there is a catch as this is only applicable to the men. Women get to use the services here for free.

However, the men can send their first message with no charge. From that point on any further contact or new contacts means paying for the privilege with credits that covers chats and letters.

Take a look below for more cost details.

Images

Providing Pictures

 

You are probably a little anxious about your images and curious about the ones you will be able to view.

Concern #5: What kind of images can be uploaded?

The Answer: You have the option to upload images, and you can also alter them to be discreet. Such as you can blur sections or apply a mask. Then when the right person comes along, you can provide them with a key to access the images in a clear version.

To Profile Or Not To Profile

Profiling
Your registration information is basically your profile. If you want to expand on this, you can go through the site’s profile walk through. This will allow you to add more details, but it is totally optional.

Priority Profile
You can have your profile featured. This means your profile will be flagged and remain in the top three spots according to your area.

Pricing

Remember, women don’t pay!

Credit PackageCredit BatchesPer Batch(USD)Per Credit
Basic100 credits$59..59 cents each
Classic500 credits$169.34 cents each
Elite1000 credits$289..29 cents each
Note: Prices are examples these can change at any time or be different according to location

Costs

Each message sent5 credits
Receiving messages5 credits
Start a live chat30 credits
½ hour of chat30 credits
One hour of chat60 credits
Virtual Gifts20 to 50 credits
Activation fee$19.
Cancellation fee$19.
RegistrationFree
Profile ViewingFree
Sending WinksFree
Note: These are subject to change

The Perks

Extras

There are some extra perks that will come with your membership that do have some benefits to them.

Some may cost you extra so you will need to decide whether it’s worth it.

Golden Status: You get listed in the top three search spots for your area.

Priority Message: Message recipient will see your message at the top of their inbox list.

Quick Reply: The ability to send a full response after receiving an emoticons

Traveling Man: On the go and lonely? No problem you can use this feature to find someone in your area.

User Begins: Someone initiates the message, and you can review it at no cost.

Communication Tools: A tool box to scale up your experience on the site.

The Big Moment – Making The Decision

Dating

It is probably time for you to now make the decision as to whether you are ready for what Ashley Madison has to offer. Consider your personal pros and cons, but also consider these for this dating platform as well.

Getting Down To The Pros and Cons

Pros and Cons

The Pros:

  • There are plenty of members who appear to be satisfied
  • The website is user-friendly
  • There are options for being discreet
  • Additional safety measures have been put in place
  • Members are joining with the same intent
  • Most feel it is price comparable

The Cons:

  • There is an app version, but some are not impressed with its functionality
  • The ads can be annoying

Take Away

If you are looking for a dating site where the majority of the members are like-minded, and you are ready for the type of experience that Ashley Madison is prepared to offer then give it a try.

 Be sure to share with us your experiences with Ashley Madison dating site.

 

 

 

 

{ 54 comments… read them below or add one }

John July 21, 2013 at 2:30 am

AM worked for me in a month. But in that same month I also had a stalker arrange a meeting. Guess it was my fault that I let my penis out think my intellect. Good news is you can block the weirdos. I did!

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Tim duncan July 3, 2019 at 12:05 pm

I’ve been using Ashley Madison for a while and let me tell you I haven’t started sleeping with woman until I started using this website.I don’t know what it is but the woman are way more open minded on here! My recommendation is to try it out I’m 57 years old and weight 210 so if they are willing to meet up with me I’m sure they will meet up with anyone.
http://bit.ly/AshleyMadisonPage

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JohnW October 6, 2014 at 11:34 am

AM is completely a fake website run by a computer program. IT IS A SCAM!!! I’m glad I paid with my AMEX card because I got my money back…

I got a ton of emails, winks, suggestions to send gifts, and even chatted with “someone” many times via Yahoo Messenger — each chat with “whomever” was based clearly on what words I had entered…

Don’t waste your time or money and other review that says it works is a fake review. If you wonder why no one else (specifically a guy) has not shared this info, it’s because we are embarrassed to say we got scammed.

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Bull May 13, 2015 at 7:24 pm

Sorry but AM worked for me. Found no bots there and had a rather happy time meeting two different ladies. Don’t know where you are getting your information from but maybe it wasn’t the real site?

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female January 4, 2017 at 3:22 am

I am a female and like Bull it worked fine for me. I met a wonderful guy and we have a great on the side thing going, If we ever break it off I will be using AM again.

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Leon October 1, 2018 at 9:48 pm

Thanks for honest review

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Luka October 2, 2018 at 4:15 pm

Hi John

you are perfectly right … I was scammed too only I was not able to get my money back.

I leave this message only for helping other, do not believe the good review

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Steve December 27, 2018 at 5:17 am

I tried it and used up all my credits on about half a dozen profiles that responded to my profile. Every single one of them turned out to be a fake profile trying to scam me in to signing up to crappy porn sites poorly disguised as ‘dating verification’ sites.
Maybe it’s just a lack of legitimate users in my particular city (a city of 2 million people I might add). When I get a 100% hit rate of scammers then there’s no point continuing.

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Corey the black guy June 10, 2019 at 2:26 pm

THANK YOU JOHN!
thank you for saving me thousands of dollars from these scammers!

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Happy with AM March 30, 2015 at 2:57 am

I have had an ongoing relationship for 9 months with a man in the same predicament as myself – no sex – no passion – we both have been married to our spouses for over 20 years. The best part is we are having the best sex but make no mistake ladies – if you are going on this site the men are not looking to replace their wives – they want sex and passion – that’s it. you need to understand that = leave your heart out of it or it will be broken. I feel I could very easily fall for this man but he is not willing to leave her and break up his family and I am not sure I am either.

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mike November 14, 2015 at 5:51 pm

I was reading reviews for Ashley Madison and came across yours. First, thanks for your input on the site…. At least now I know there are some well spoken women (and not just creepy guys) on AM who want Sex on the dl like myself. Sometimes you want to live a little and enjoy the company of someone other than your wife or, in your case, husband. Secondly, where are you from? lol hey it’s worth a shot….you might live nearby. I’m in Louisiana….

sincerely,

A curious and adventurous gentlemen 😉

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Dave November 25, 2015 at 7:42 am

I believe that AM is not as bad as most people try to tell you. Did it work for me? No, I personally found my affair on Saphrina.com…but that does not mean that I felt “umcomfortable” on AM.

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Marc November 25, 2015 at 11:19 pm

Hi the Ashley madsion site is a waste of time and money Beware of scammers claiming in their profile wanting a no strings affair and then want you to sign up a site which takes you to a pornographic site and they take your credit card so beware and I have paid 150.00 and had 1 match
client claimed was married and wanted money for sexual encounter also beware of members profile say from new York sends photos next they tell you from Ghana Africa and wanting funds requests I am actually removing my profile after one month very disaatisfied with Ashley Madison

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Mike January 7, 2018 at 11:43 pm

Marc, I am currently experiencing the exact same thing. One thing that made me wake up was having email conversations with 3 ladies at different times. They all sounded so real and sincere, one especially, then you never hear from them again!! It’s like they get paid a few dollars or something for every chump they hook?? Very disappointed in this site!!

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kayak September 12, 2018 at 9:15 am

You’ve got to be smart about it. There are obviously some scammers and escorts in the mix, but I hooked up with three women in a thirty day period. The only downside for me is I started to get too attached to two of the women. Thought I could handle it but I realized can’t keep totally about sex. But the site it def works for a lot of people.

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JustinT December 8, 2015 at 1:13 pm

Ashley Madison is the world’s best known extra-marital affairs website. Most of its users are from Canada, USA and UK.
Sadly though it has recently been revealed that the site was hacked and millions of its members’ details released publicly. Those members are rightly now concerned about their privacy.
To be honest, I always had an inclination that this may happen one day. I never really felt entirely safe using such a huge, popular site.
I also didn’t feel that they were being entirely fair when I discovered that YOU HAVE TO PAY if you want them to delete all the data that they hold on you. Seriously? Pay upon joining and then pay when you leave?

I personally prefer using smaller sites to find someone to have a discrete affair with. I just have a feeling that this kind of site is not such a significant target for hackers, willing to disclose someone’s personal details. I tried quite a few of them and the one I really like was NoStringsAffair.com. There are plenty of members in my area and I had sex with a gorgeous woman I met on the site already! We have had our first date in a restaurant to get to know each other a little bit, but when we met up the second time we booked a room in a hotel and had the most amazing night 😉

The great thing about NoStringsAffair.com is the ‘no strings’ aspect. We continued to have an affair and both of us were cool about it staying that way. We would just meet up and have sex together and no obligation to turn it into a serious relationship. Would recommend it.

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Luis January 18, 2016 at 5:18 pm

Yes, I agree with many “reviewers”…sites like Saphrina really managed to provide a better environment for so called cheaters. But AM is not as bad at all, provided you invest a lot of time and money. Credits are expensive.

After all, I think AM is still one of the better sites!

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Marc@ August 19, 2016 at 11:49 pm

One gent said it correctly. This site is a total scam. Bots send countless messages to you claiming to be an admiring 25 year old. Some send photos that are obviously stock porn shots. Someone should shut these guys down. Please don’t waste your money.

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gofarplace August 4, 2017 at 11:49 am

i agree. during the trial period, ladies contacted me to send messages. I watched for 2 weeks and kept an eye of couple of ladies and they were online every day. i thought they are real. From the day, i bought points, they became so irregular.
It is total scam. Not worth it.

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jim k. December 12, 2016 at 8:41 pm

Wish I had read this blog before I lost 70.00 bucks and hours of my time responding to bogus profiles and dishonest people who act as potential lovers but divert you to other love wanted dating sites. AM billed my card for 140 bucks extra that I had to dispute. AM is a buyer beware like all the rest.

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James March 19, 2017 at 3:31 pm

I have used AM in the with some success but I deleted my old profile years ago. WIth that said… I recently decided to rejoin the AM community. When I filled out my new profile I accidentally clicked a wrong button and registered as a female looking for a male. Wups.. So I immediately went a made a new profile correcting the mistake being a man looking for a lady. I then went and deleted the incorrect profile.

I was completely astonished at what happened next… I got an email from my own deleted “woman for man” profile to my “man for woman” profile that i NEVER sent and had to pay credits to view. This tell me that 100% without a doubt that AM is baiting guys into paying for more credits.

While the site does in fact work with quite a bit of effort and money, there is no doubt that this site is baiting guys into paying credits to get absolutely nothing in return. Like I said, I got an email from my own deleted profile that wanted me to pay to view, let alone respond.

Based on this very bad business practice, I will only give them one star and am going to delete my profile.

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Paul Jones May 4, 2017 at 1:58 pm

Spent plenty of hard earned $$$$ on this site to no avail. Some show an interest, vaguely chat, and then disappear into thin air. An enormous waste of time and money. If your frustrated with your married life, this site just doubles your frustration. I’d rather deal with my shortcomings at home, rather than deal with deadbeat women who think their shit don’t stink, and don’t have the decency to respond to a perfectly polite conversation. I’ve also confirmed that there are phony profiles. NICE!! Avoid at all costs!!!!!!!

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AM/PM May 14, 2017 at 3:22 pm

I have usewd last year AM and i had two awsome partner. However, my credits was taken away this year by sending fake profiles and email which dissapeared always or no respond after I sent message. Only interest is to doing it has to be from AM staff I belive. Since there is no good place to complain I will write my experience in all review availble to make you aware of the cons and pros.

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sexyman386 July 23, 2017 at 11:00 pm

Look this website is legit and I am sure it is working for many people. Unfortunately it is not working for me and here is why. Ashley Madison does not screen the girls and I have been approached by many women who claim I need to fill out an assurance ID which Ashley Madison has confirmed it’s a scam. Also this credit system they use for a first time user will be used up in about a few days before they run out of credits. It makes sense to buy their best package but who wants to spend over $200 when they are unsure. There are quite a few reviews which praises Ashley Madison but if you read clearly they try it out for themselves and they spend a lot of time and effort and they especially hire some guy who knows how to talk to the girls to get them to meet up. For us average joes you will need to spend a heck of a lot of money and a lot of time is needed before finding the right girl.

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monty August 9, 2017 at 6:42 am

Bad experience, being new it took awhile to figure out the scam. I buy some credits, get contacted by 3 different woman, beautiful pics, right away with message to contact them at their private email. Discussions are very open and suggestive. They have jobs or businesses that have them traveling to all points on the globe. Then after awhile they run into a financial issue an start asking you to help them with a credit card. Glad I sent them a fake picture

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Srqpfs August 11, 2018 at 1:35 am

Ditto I corresponded with a woman supposed to be 48 looked 32 said she was in modern art auction 2 weeks later she was stuck in Turkey and couldn’t get home. Talk about a scam If you use this site caveat et emptor.

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fatboyjohnfresh September 12, 2017 at 2:46 am

IM A BLACK GUY AND I EVEN TRIED THIS BULLSHIT AND GOT SCAMMED! MAN THIS SITE SOME BULLSHIT MAN FA REAL DONT LET THESE FAKE REVIEWS FOOL YOU LIKE I DID IM OUT OF $50 MAN THIS IS SOME BULLSHIT!! AND IM A BLACK GUY FROM THE HOOD SO YOU CAN BELIEVE ME I AINT GOT SHIT TO LOSE IM IN DEBT I GOT NIGGAS WANTING TO KILL ME AND THE WHOLE 9 SO IM GONE TELL YOU THE TRUTH THIS SHIT SOME BULLSHIT FWM ON XVIDEOS IM OUT

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Es February 9, 2018 at 5:35 am

I have to say this website is filled with fake profiles that makes you send a message and a few days later no longer there, this is their way to make sure you spend the money to get credit but never actually meet anyone.

I caution people from this website it does not work and it is purely a scam

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Rich March 31, 2018 at 3:54 pm

Complete Scam.

Then you get ‘messaged’ with BS like ‘this one may be interested – reach out to her’… which isn’t as bad as the complete BS profiles (the photos are usually a give-away), bots, and BS notes.

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LatinaChics April 10, 2018 at 6:24 pm

I love this website. I found a guy really quickly that was married too and looking for some passion. However, the only downside is that I think men get addicted to this site. So woman beware, if you are going to be with a man from this site remember that they are cheaters…so don’t expect to be the only side chick. Use protection and be safe. But it was great sex ;). Also, these men are mostly married and not looking for another wife so don’t put any emotions or feelings into the relationship. To the guys who are on this site, if a chic doesn’t says “Not interested” please let it go…shes not into you…I’m sure there’s another one on the site for you. It’s not easy to find chemistry/ attraction with an online site but I can tell you from experience….it does happen…you just gotta find your diamond in the rough. 😘

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Jeremy May 10, 2018 at 12:26 am

AM is defiantly a scam website, everything on AM is computer generated. my advise is stay away from AM. 0/10

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BustyBabyDDD May 12, 2018 at 10:43 am

I joined AM 2 weeks ago. (Until yesterday I wasn’t aware the men paid, and as a woman I didn’t have to) My profile was completely honest, down to the fact that I am overweight. (I figured why lie, especially if the point is to meet someone to have an affair with…)
I got hits from several men of various ages, including some 30 years younger than I am. (I am 50) I whittled them all down and weeded out the nonsense to 5 really nice men that I have seen a few times each. (Slept with 4) They each know about each other and I have told them all that I will be making a choice, and each of them has been completely understanding about that, because I can’t go on with multiple partners.
So for me, Ashley Madison has been a HUGE success. I have encountered no problems, scammers, etc.

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Ann August 7, 2018 at 5:40 pm

I set up a profile on AM and found a wonderful man in one day! I too am overweight, busty and 50! It is so incredible to feel passion again! You go girl and I will too!

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JohnnieRinger November 7, 2018 at 5:40 pm

AM is a complete waste of time and nothing more than a scammers paradise. I had one lady tell me she needed to borrow $1.7M to get access to her $18M inheritance in the UK to pay taxes. Yeah right. Another lady claimed she was a diamond importer, the a few days later got a desperate plea for $8500 as she was stuck in customs jail and needed to straighten it out. Yeah, they want to borrow money from a guy they never met before. Right. The best source to borrow money from when her life was on the line was someone they never met before.

Worse, when you block the TS or other, they still come up in the searches. This is a scam website, nothing more. Save your time, money, and frustration.

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Tom Hunter May 12, 2018 at 1:06 pm

Purchased the entry level program and sent out emails to local gals. Here are the results so you can reach your own conclusion:
6 prostitutes
1 scam artist from Ghana
3 no responses after I was contacted by them with a message that I had to pay to open. Needless to say I did not meet a single real person and wasted more than 70 bucks for nothing but a total waste.

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AnonymousRight? July 24, 2018 at 2:02 am

I found AM has targeted right weakness of men, polygamy nature. We probably get bored with our partner and fantasize to sleep with someone else’s wife. There are several things you need to keep in mind before you even consider signing up.
– Only men pay for using the site. Isnt it unfair in the world where everything is equal? That also probably tells a lot on how AM operates. May be majority of women dont wish to have a secret relationship at all. To attract whoever is left out, they have possibly made it for free.
– Now that we accept men are supposed to get ripped off, how are they screening the women? To test that I made a fake profile and was utterly shocked to see the number of men who sent proposal to meet me. I should say some men are really desperate for sex, and no wonder why the flesh market thrives so well. A few had sent me naked pictures of themselves. If you are one of them, go and take it down. You dont know when AM will get hacked and how your picture could make your family heartbroken.
– Women ratio is very very less. I infact really liked three women profiles and sent them my message. It costed me like 5c+5c for each message. By default AM enables something called priority message, which is nothing but a flag that gets shown on the other side(my fake women profile showed me how it all looks from the other side) If you use credit card, they also upfront load you with 19.99 for things you dont want. A cleverly thought way to rip men off. Coming back to the messages I sent, these women probably got tens of messages from people like me. It also means I have to reach out to many to get proper response from atleast one. You do get response for say wink message(free message), however all responses are standard one a women can choose. When she does, you get collect message which you cannot read without being paid AM member. Again con job.
– Many women I saw were either escorts, came on the site for checking how it would be or completely fake ones like the other one I created. Now when you send those priority messages hoping to get laid, how do you know its not one of the profiles a man has created just to have fun? Think about it folks.

I need not have written detailed review here. However the fake profile I created thought me a lot how it looks from the other side. I was hoping to get response from a women and expecting atleast I could chat with her. After I saw the other side, I came and removed my man’s profile. Its a fake service designed to loot men. Feel free to waste your money there or instead take your spouse to a nice dinner. May be we have to work on rekindeling our relationship with a partner we trust instead of reinventing the wheel all over again and get conned and hurt in the process.

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Jon September 27, 2018 at 8:58 pm

Don’t believe any positive reviews of Ashleymadison.com. The site is a complete fraud. I paid for one month of service and the changed the settings so that there wasn’t an automatic renewal. The website set my membership was good for the month I paid for, but didn’t give me member access. Additionally, I’d estimate that at least 70 percent of the profiles on there are fake or catfish. The site does nothing to verify the profiles are real people.

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Tom October 28, 2018 at 7:11 am

I joined today and got some 25 year old to skype me. Then recorded me and tried to blackmail me. Not happy right now 😟

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Lee October 31, 2018 at 11:22 pm

Nope doesn’t work and I’ll tell you why… 99% of the profiles you are attracted to are fake and only want your email. So you won’t get replies back, as they were long abandoned (the phishers moved on to other fake profiles). Or you’ll get messages from decent looking profiles, most usually marked as out of state, but ALL claiming they are in your area if they are. Be wary of people who flirt with you. I don’t have my photo posted on my profile, for discretionary reasoning, so I know when I get a flirt, a woman in her right mind would not do so blindly. I could be hideous…or old.

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Bob R. November 9, 2018 at 11:51 pm

AM worked with some effort. I met a really cool gal that rocked my world after a lot of dead ends to start. I’m sure the site fabricates a lot but I met a real cute cougar that treated me well after a few weeks of effort.

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Nathan W. November 23, 2018 at 1:50 am

Hello, Bob R.,
How long were you a member on AH before you contacted a real person of interest? About how many emails did you send, and how many real people returned your messages?
Thanks.

Nate

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NotMe November 24, 2018 at 10:45 pm

Nathan, you can see my evaluation of the site below (pardon the typos). I’m a reasonable good looking and fit guy in his 50’s who is a highly educated professional. I’ve been on for about a month and have burned through 250 credits at this point. (Each contact requires 7-8 credits so you can do the math.) The bottom line is that I have yet to get in contact with anyone who will actually meet. I have dealt with a number of scammers but usually you can figure out pretty quickly what they are up to. I have had maybe 3 message exchanges with women who I think were legit and those have (so far) not led to a meeting. The thing that is really frustrating as I note below is that about 90% of the messages I have sent do not even elicit a view of my profile. They seemingly just go into the ether. This could be because the profile is inactive (even though the site tells me the person regularly logs in). This could also be because women get so many messages from men that the vast majority don’t even get opened. This site may be great for women but for men it is borderline depressing and an enormous waste of money.

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NotMe November 22, 2018 at 1:27 am

I’ve read over these reviews and (assuming to you take them at face value) there is a big different between men’s experiments which were overwhelmingly negative and women’s experiences which were mostly positive. This is consistent with my own experience as a guy. It’s very expensive and you have to weed through many scammers. The site allows you to see if someone views your profile. I find that 9/10 when I message a woman not only do they not reply but they also do not even view my profile. If they do view my profile they usually do not reply to my message. I’ve only had one seemingly legitimate chatting session. That woman seemed nice but was looking for a single guy or a married guy with permission from wifey – go figure! So to some extent I agree it is a scam. But I also think the male:female ratio is overwhelmingly high. It’s so high that women can be really picky. Women my age are often looking for younger men, for example. Your odds are probably better picking someone up in a bar.

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Nikki123 December 4, 2018 at 6:35 pm

I’m a woman who was on it for a day and a half. It was fun, but overwhelming. I never really wanted to meet anyone in person, I wanted nasty chat which was really fun! I found myself looking at my phone much more than I usually do, to the detriment of my real-life activities. Mostly I was there for fun and validation. When your husband doesn’t touch you, it really sucks. It was great to feel some excitement and adventure! Male users: communicate with your partner about sex, about your desires and needs. Ask what hers are! If she totally not interested, talk about an open relationship. My partner probably wouldn’t go for it, but more couples should do it. Oh, and if she agrees to an open relationship, be prepared for her to get more dates than you!

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Zack December 8, 2018 at 10:43 am

Hello , Does any guys know of any sites that do work for picking up women.?

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Jenn December 18, 2018 at 1:53 am

I’m a woman in my late 40’s. I hated getting the rude messages and winks and favorites. It is a process-of-elimination game for us. Men send ridiculous requests and then get offended when we don’t respond. But ladies, if you go looking for a good profile and are patient enough, there are wonderful normal men out there! I found two so far, am on my second AM relationship going on six months now. I think we are saving each other’s marriage. I am happy at home now with this man to look forward to once a week. We are trying stuff I had never even heard about, and having so much fun. Guys having no luck, here is a tip: You don’t have to write us about how you only want a FWB that gives blowjobs. We know already. You’re welcome.

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yahooo♪♪ December 22, 2018 at 12:40 am

i agree with you.
i’m man living in japan. I finally could find 2 good womens
Still not meet , but are exchange message, building a friendship.
Womans must understand the mens position into the website because for us is very har to know if that woman orofile is not a fake. For this reason, i just add to favorites to check later. Please, do not discard who add you as favorite. For mens cost a lot of time and efforts to find real and good womens there.
Actually im very surprised to find 2 goods womans. Im talking with them right now by messenger app or into ashleymadison messenger.
This website , i guarantee is not scam. Just must have patience and some cautions.

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yahoo♪♪ December 22, 2018 at 12:32 am

I subscribed first time in 2018-November.
I got very frustrated because nobody give any answer.
I sent email to support to complain about too many fake profiles and hookers and told to them my insatisfaction.
I decided to read reviews. Of course, most of revuews gives low rate and do not recommend the service at all.
However, i could found many reviews giving good rate and many useful tips to be successful into this environment.
First of all you must be very patient.
You have to write well on your profile information about yourself, about what you looking for.
Be discreet and detailed, but not boring or negative. Be honest, sincere, then you will get many requests from REAL WOMEN,…
Be very careful with hoikers and fake profiles.
Avoid single womens and try the married ones.
Avoid big cities, try to searching in smaller cities. For example, i living in Japan.
The province where i living do not have enougth female profiles. Only 6 profiles and seems all abandoned..
So my option is searching in another provinces.
Tokyo has thousands of profiles… but very very difficult to trust what is real or not because cost credits for the first contact.
You must have a lot of patience checking one by one.
Avoid profiles with photos, specially if the photo is too sexy, too beauty, too good to be true.. Normally, these are all hookers/prostitutes or fake profiles.
Searching profiles with hidden photos or without any photos, you will get high rate response.
Do not discard the chubby ladies!! Some of them are slim!! Of course most of them are fat.. LOL.. but, who cares?.. At least you will make a friendship with a woman and from this woman you may know anothers that she recommend.. Its a investment LOL..

Well.. in fact not so easy. You must have a good appeal. Must have a good look. Dont need to be rich.. Just a good look. Womens want affair with handsome guys.
If you has a good face and good body, you do not smoke or get drunk, your chances increase a lot.
If you are not a handsome guy… sorry.. Will be very hard to earn the confidence of beauty woman.
Despite of all, the key is be sincere. You will build a secret relationship, then both sides must be honest each other. Be very clear, do not hesitate that you want SEX,SEX,SEX.. because if you say if are not interested in sex, you are a liar..
Be very honest.

About the website tools. Must be very carefull with traps that eat your credits.
Never send priority messages. Pure wasteful. Dont make any difference.
Buy 1000 credits to start. I know, expensive, but you will need and if you pay attentuon on my advices, using only 200~400 credit you will find and have date with dozens of womens.

Ourchase the option “MIC” member initiate contact. This option allows to answer messages for free without any limitation.
Once you get the first contact, you can keep send and receiving messages for free.
Be a gentleman with the womans. Be sincere, talk why you are frustrated with your marriage and ask to her why she is lookning for an affair.
Be very clear that you refuse prostitutes. This way you will filter them.
Dont send winks!! Many womans discard and block you!!
Because 99% of guys just send tons of winks.
Send a good message on first contact. Do not copy and paste the same message to every woman!‘!
Read the woman profile and try to send your message according to her desires.
Avoid womans without any description on their profiles. Those are normally inactive or abandoned profiles. Target your efforts on profiles with clear and objective description.

Do not use the chat at all!!!! Never use that chat!!

Thats all!! Good luck!
Im not paid by ashleymadison!! This is a honest review! Believe it

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Andrew December 30, 2018 at 1:28 am

Tried AM for a week and was not impressed. Snotty responses and just a feel of the same old dating website formula (i.e. Plentyoffish, Lavalife….etc . A great hustle for the owner(s) I’m certain.

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Not Mr Wrong January 1, 2019 at 6:52 pm

I’ve met five women in person, slept with three, made out with one and didn’t have chem with the other. Of the three women, I’ve had a longer-term affair that has been very satisfying with one. I’ve also chatted with a couple other women and enjoyed that too.

For the guys saying they wasted $50-70 bucks, well, my advice is if you think that’s a lot of money, you should pick another hobby. Not many ladies want to have sex in your car. You may be all that, but the women control the thing you want, so you need to adapt to them and show them you can afford to treat them right. Bitching about $50 doesn’t really communicate that very well.

Are there scammers? Probably, but in my credit history AM has refunded credits for messages I sent to bogus profiles. In fact, I got one this morning.

The women I slept with told me they liked my messages. Why? They were well written and were humorous. If you aren’t either of those, then you are going to have a problem.

The last bit of advice – they all want to see a cock, they just don’t want to see it before they decide if they are interested in you, so for the love of god, keep your profile pics PG. They will actually be more interested in you if they don’t think you’re a pig.

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Winger January 5, 2019 at 2:55 am

I’m not sure if any of it is real…aside from a couple of chumps looking to just get lucky and me, someone looking for an actual affair. There does seem to be lots of bots, and actual girls that would vanish in mid sentence (in like a normal conversation), and the rest consists of scammers and prostitutes. Used it for months, havent been able to meet a real person looking for a real affair. Havent even had the chance to have a full conversation with anyone. The whole thing is a total scam. Buyer beware. Also, notice it’s mostly female alias popping up on here saying it works…its AM staffers assuring you that everything is fine

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joe smith January 8, 2019 at 11:00 pm

Wanted to try this site out, it’s partially legit, but mainly a scam. They send you messages saying they are from a user, these are canned messages that are not from a real person, their system sends out these messages. Was able to chat with a couple women, out of 100 a few are real, and these ladies were expensive sugar babies. Most profiles are bogus, and most the negative reviews here are true.

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Redlips February 18, 2019 at 8:58 pm

I’m honestly laughing reading the comments here. I’m a lady and I can asure hi I’m real. I receive 5 or 6 messages per day from men who are highly unattractive (fat, weirdos, bald, crazy, losers, no teeth, horrible teeth) that have been married for a long time and do not take into consideration that ladies there are looking for someone who takes care of themselves mentally AND physically. Selfish men that expect to have an affair when they are disgustingly unattractive (poor wives!)
Of course you won’t get any responses! Go to the gym, start taking care of yourself!
As for the messages you receive from ladies than then “disappear” there’s an option to let the site contact men in your favor. If you do not I click that option, the site will contact matches in behalf of you. That’s why.
Guys: if you want an affair, look at yourself in the mirror and honestly ask yourself if you’re attractive.
Yuki men expecting to eat the cake, unbelievable.

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jack off jill March 2, 2019 at 2:42 pm

First of all, AM is real. I signed on there and had so much sex I felt like I was a Boy Scout Leader again. Wait take that back.
I had so much sex I felt like a priest again. FUCK! Scratch that.
I had so much sex my penis has its own cell phone number now.
Actually, I joined. I searched for men, women and goats. NO GOATS! But plenty of hook ups. I met a nice prostitute and her male gay friend and behold they have a goat also.
Now we are happy family and produce our own incest goat porn for pornhub under the username of “Furry Incest Goat Fucking Milk Enema Ass to Mouth Drinkers”.

Oh and fix your voting code. I was able to use a auto clicker for under 2 minutes and add over 450 “5 star” votes and raise the rating from 40 something percent to 70 percent.

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